HeartNote, February 27, 2019: To Be Heard


I want to define what the words "to hear" really means. I think lately there's been some disagreement about its application and it's meaning.


To be heard is to be understood, but it's a little more than that. Being understood means to be informed, to register and respond to the meaning of your words. To understand is the cognitive recognition of your meaning. It is a sympathetic response.


But to be "heard" is to absorb another's meaning.


If I "hear" you, I'm aware of your being. I get you. I know the rhythm of your sentiment, I follow the cadence of your words. Your inflection tells me what you are feeling. The words you choose provides insight to all of the things that make you who you are.


"Hearing," therefore, is empathetic.


Think of how you respond when somebody you love is sharing something serious or urgent. You tend not to say, "Thank you. I understand," or "So what I hear you saying is...." No, you say something a little closer to the emotional side of the ledger, something like, "What? Are you serious? Everything OK? What the heck just happened?..." and so on. Your heart comes forward to hear theirs. Your feelings meets with theirs head on. Your response holds their sentiment close. It isn't limited to the understanding the process of events. It is focused on hearing the meaning of their words, their feelings, their tone, and the emotional weight of their expression.


Anybody can listen. We listen on the job, in school, in traffic and at home. We listen to the radio, the television, and to the sounds in our environment. It's an involuntary response. We listen as part of our existence.


When you "hear" somebody, you're leaning into them. Your care, attention and friendship supports your understanding. It's more than gathering data; it's recognizing the spirit of another's issue.


Offering your presence through attention is to understanding; offering your attention through love is to hear.

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Anybody can listen. We listen on the job, in school, in traffic and at home. We listen to the radio, the television, and to the sounds in our environment. It's an involuntary response. We listen as part of our existence.


When you "hear" somebody, you're leaning into them. Your care, attention and friendship supports your understanding. It's more than gathering data; it's recognizing the spirit of another's issue.


Offering your presence through attention is to understanding; offering your attention through love is to hear.

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