I've spoken about this before, and I've cited it in other essays.
And I think we need to apply this to the upcoming holiday this Thursday, to the timing is pretty good.
Know this. Know this in your heart of hearts:
We think our way into happiness just like we think our way into sadness. We can choose "woe is me" or "this is the best thing that ever happened to me."
Short but clear example: Ask my wonderful cousin Lorraine about her hip. She got a hip replacement. Hurt like crazy. Was a little distraught.
BUT once she decided this hip pain was the best thing that ever happened to her, THE HIP PAIN WENT AWAY! My cousin. Face to face retelling. And Lorraine doesn't exaggerate. She shoots straight from the...yeah, well, there.
There are a million of these. This is just from somebody I know and love and believe. So, there's that.
It is our intrapersonal* duty to ourselves to think, look, notice and recognize what is good and true...
...and that would be everything.
We never know the extent of the learning we can glean from all we of as bad in order to take steps in our lives to change it. We never know the extent of the joy we can hold in order to take steps to share it.
It. Is. All. Good.
I want to take a quote from Pam Grout's book, "E3" or E cubed.
"We all have stories. Like the Brother's Grimm, we retell these stories to anyone who'll listen:
"I have trouble sleeping. I hate to exercise. I've never been organized."
But these stories are not any more true (except to the degree you've repeated them and made them your personal calling card) than their opposites. Than a whole palette of other stories. Some of our stories serve us. For example, another one of my stories (and I choose to stick with this one) is that I'm a brilliant writer. Adding weight to that story and repeating it to myself has enabled me to write seventeen books. It's enabled me to have a career doing what I love.
By repeating a story over and over again we create neuro pathways to the brain that reinforce that reality."
I wholeheartedly recommend this book. There are books like this all around us, words with research and proof that absolutely let you know that "thoughts become things." I remember a man said that every time he saw his friend and asked how he was doing, the friend said, "Just getting fat, bald and ugly." Five years passed after he'd seen his friend last. When he ran into him again, the man looked exactly as he'd continued to describe himself.
Pam Grout recommends that, in order to help anchor our thoughts and focus, we get out of bed with the words, "Something amazing is going to happen today." We immediately shift our focus and expect the the good throughout the day. We bypass so much of our negative focus because we're anticipating good. In everything.
And that's just one of a hundred techniques. Just knowing that, just for this day, everything you see is good, and everything you experience could be the best thing that has ever happened in your life. It changes your perspective. And it also changes the events in your life having any negative control over you.
"The Power of Positive Thinking," "Think and Grow Rich" "The Secret" and dozens of others continue to illustrate what I quoted Marcus Aurelius stating a few weeks ago:
"As a man thinketh, so he is."
And, today, I think that everything has order, goodness, light and love attached to it. We just need to see