HeartNote, November 6, 2019: Staying Out Of Your Head, Inner Peace edition

There is a phrase that has been used forever to point out behavior that appears agitated, over-analyzing, self focused, unsure, and detached from the soul, as if the ego is offering a performance. It's called "Being In Your Head."

If you think this might sound like you, here's a short definition of what it means to be "In Your Head:"

1) Thinking past the point of purpose: Specifically, trying to figure out what you're trying to do in a spinning, tangential place, repeating this behavior without a place to land. "Cogitation" is a word with a pretty close definition of this phenomenon.

2) Focusing on yourself: Your speech, thoughts, decisions, and interactions with others tend to be negatively self-evaluative and self-conscious.

3) Insecurity: Self doubt, the combination of self-evaluation and self consciousness, fuels a sense of helplessness.

4) Anxiety: Not knowing what to say, what to do, or whether you're a good enough person to be right about anything. Confidence is fleeting.

5) Perseveration: Attempts at securing a reasonable thought or behavior, without a feeling of self trust, while thoughts are firing in your head at the speed of light, not being able to trust yourself enough to embrace even one single thought that merits trust or expression, often resulting in tangential expression.

Here's what you do to if you want to stop this process of resting in your head:

1) Love and Forgive. Unconditionally. They all have their own struggles regardless of their behavior toward you. Focus on the good in those whose path you cross. Practice "Namaste" to each person you see: "The light within me sees the light within you."

2) Focus on your breathing. Whenever your focus goes sideways, come back to your breathing with a deep inhale and deep exhale. Alternate nostril breathing is excellent for this.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8VwufJrUhic&t=305s

3) Practice saying and feeling "thank you" for every step you take, breath you breathe, pain you hold, and turn of the steering wheel. Gratitude is a big word. Just breathe "Thank You."

4) Philippians 4: "The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." (I am going to write about this tomorrow. Stay tuned.)

5) Know. Look how far you've come. Whatever happens, know you're OK. Know you're just fine. Know you'll be just fine.

6) God. Allah, Buddha, Mohammed, Krishna, Mother Earth/Father Sky, The Big Electron, The Field of Infinite Potentiality, "Phil", whomever. Say a prayer and be cool with the answer. You've got this. Take two steps forward to God and He/She/It will come running to you.


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