Be fearless and use fewer words. Breathe, and place your heart behind the words you use.
"Right Speech" is a Buddhist concept about being free from "false, malicious, harsh" speech or "idle chatter," or just speaking for the sake of speaking. In the Bible, Proverbs is all over this: "When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent." "Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent" "A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
We've all been that "fool" from time to time, as well as being being "prudent."
It is up to use to choose our words with some pause and deliberation. If anything in our human condition is reflexive, talking holds that place. Knowing this, and keeping conscious of that knowledge, elevates our compassion and presence with another.
There are those that have been raised in an atmosphere where they haven't been heard. Ignored. Passed over. Abused. Dismissed. Speech is their way to be recognized. Speech is their method to be heard, seen, attended to, and loved. The silence they sustain in their family is often released among peers.
To begin a habit of "right" speech begins, in part, with healing the pain that fuels our need to heard. Conversation is a sharing, not a plea for control or a need to be noticed. When we recognize and see the origin and reason for our speech, we will be able to adjust it accordingly. As our heart feels ease the form of our speech will change, quieting our voice and bringing peace to our message. Our need will shift from speaking to listening, only offering input when sharing is heartfelt or requested.
When we speak from the heart, our connection is brief by nature. The feeling itself rests more distinctly with more meaning on every word we share.
Feel your words. Breathe your peace through every syllable.