“Right Speech” is a Buddhist concept about being free from “false, malicious, harsh” speech or “idle chatter”, or just speaking for the sake of speaking. In the Bible, Proverbs is all over this: “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.” “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise:; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent”: “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”

So, I'm certain that this is a phrase that you've used repeatedly. And I'm equally certain that, with repeated usage, you are guilty of violating that intent. I mean, the term"violating" is a little harsh, I get that. But the use is intentional. This needs to be brought to its most egregious point of compromise because - and I say this with all seriousness - it's a lousy thing to put out there if you don't intend follow through.

And no matter how messy things are, it's not a matter of what happens to you, it's how you see them. And how you do welcome stuff that is very unwelcome, how do you wrap your arms around stuff that's uncomfortable or pisses you off?